10 Things You Should Do To Get Your Ex Back After A Breakup

Ok, so your relationship with that special someone has come and gone but somehow you still want them back. Heres how to turn that ex-boyfriend, girlfriend or lover into your significant other once again.

1.      Consider why it is you broke up in the first place. It is crucial that you think back on the reasons you broke up in the first place. Was your relationship abusive in anyway? Were any or both of you controlling, mean, or possessive? Did one or both of you cheat? If any of these things happened in your relationship, you may have to think long and hard before headin right back into that kind of relationship.

2.      Be the person your ex fell in love with. Your ex was most likely attracted to you because he or she felt good with you, and you were fulfilling his or her emotional needs. Think on how you may have changed and take definite steps to correct any bad habits and mistakes.

3.      The first thing that you say to your ex is extremely important. Say the wrong words may cost you the chance to ever get your ex back. Never respond to your ex’s request for a breakup by crying and begging them to come back. This more often that not does not work and drives them further away. You need to understand that even though your ex initiates the breakup, there is a good chance that they still harbor good feelings for you.

4.      Use the past to your advantage. If your ex has ever complimented your outfit, wear it again. Or, share a light-hearted memory with them. If you have a chance to meet, do it at a familiar place you used to hang out together.

5.      Listen carefully to your ex’s choice of words. If he or she ever uses an unusual or uncommon word, casually slip it into your conversation again. This subconsciously tells your ex that you are similar due to exclusive and similar ways of talking.

6.      If your break up is less than a couple weeks, completely ignore your ex. Your ex will call you if he or she likes you. If that doesn’t happen, nothing you say or wear will change that. This usually works unless you are dealing with an ex that thinks that if you arent coming after them, you dont care. Sometimes, ignoring your ex makes them feel like you are perfectly fine without them and are moving on, which is the exact opposite of what you want when you are trying to get back them. Be sure you know exactly what kind of person you are dealing with when trying to get your ex back.

7.      Let your ex know you were thinking about them. Remember that one time you two went to dinner at that great new restaurant and had a wonderful time? Leave your ex a short email telling saying you ate there recently and thought of them. And, by the way, how is he or she doing? This is a non-threatening way to have a light conversation, and also, a small request for a reply back.

8.      Pay a little attention to your appearance if you have been neglecting yourself in that department.

9.      Casually ask if your ex would like to do something non-committal. Have a drink with friends, play miniature golf, play tennis or do some other things that friends and first dates alike can do. And whatever it is, keep it fun. Skip out on the serious talks for now. Youll have plenty of time to talk about that later. If your ex initiates it, follow their lead but dont go heavy.

10.    Find other things to focus on. If you focus your attention on a new activity, you will have less time to miss your ex and you’ll ultimately feel stronger and more in control of your life. And if you are still in contact, your ex will notice that you have "moved on". This will make you more desirable to him or her.

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How to Apply the No Contact Rule When You Work Together

When relationships end, many advise using the no contact rule. It offers a clean break and gives you both time and space to heal.

But what if you are co-workers? How can you successfully apply the no contact rule when you work together?

Ill be honest: its tricky. And not entirely possible.

Rather than applying the no contact rule in the workplace, you may have to go with a different strategy: the limited contact rule.

Here are tips for applying the limited contact rule, a spin-off of the no contact rule, when you work with your ex.

• Prioritize. Take a step back to figure which times, places, and topics will require interaction with you ex. I emphasize require because they should be truly important -- not excuses to talk. Similarly, pinpoint all the little interactions you had around the office that werent so important and vow to ax them.
• Set ground rules. Explain to your ex which communication youre comfortable with and which conversations you plan to avoid in the future. Be clear, calm, and polite. That way, he or she wont be mystified when your interactions with them change. 
• Limit out-of-office chatter. For many businesses, socializing with coworkers comes with the territory. Dont let this expectation creep up on how you interact with your ex. Avoid lengthy conversations outside of traditional office hours, especially in the early days of the breakup. Cut the conversation short if the topics veer into territory that hasnt made your list of priorities (see the first bullet). 
• Try to move within the company. This doesnt work as well for smaller companies, but if you have a large employer, actively seek out internal positions that theyre hiring for. Of course, dont do anything that will compromise your career, but if you see a vacancy that is a good match, go for it. If you land the position, it could enhance your resume while giving you space from your ex.
• Stay civil! No matter what happens, dont start slinging mud. You dont know if your ex will eventually serve as your supervisor, or will be contacted when youre on the hunt for new work. Keep your gaze towards the future and, no matter how bad you feel, dont cave into behavior driven by anger and hurt. Its not worth it.

The no contact rule is great for many couples going through breakups, but its more difficult to use when you work with your ex. Instead, stick with a limited contact rule shaped by maturity and civility. And if the pain of working together proves to be too much, even months down the road, keep an open for new professional opportunities.

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Why Your Ex Hates You The Truth

Your last relationship didnt end well. A few months have gone by since the break-up and youre hoping you can at least be friends with your former love. But theres a huge problem with that plan -- your ex ignores you, or worse, seems to flat-out hate your guts. So, wheres this animosity coming from? Heres the ugly truth about why your ex hates you.

Are you an evil ex? That could explain why your ex hates you.

You caused irreparable harm.

Think back to your relationship. How did you treat your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife? If not very well, you may be underestimating how difficult it is to get over really bad treatment, especially when it came from a partner who was supposed to be a source of love and support. In some cases, the damage may be so deep, things wont ever be fully right.

You wont give them space.

You broke up for a reason. Chances are, they need time away from you to process what happened and to make the next step in their life. Give them their time; if you dont, they could grow to hate you for it.

You lied. A lot.

Deception cuts deep, especially when its perpetuated by those you love. You may be attempting a new lease on life, but lets face it, your past plays a role in shaping how youre perceived. Itll take time for new (positive) habits to be the new norm. And until your honest routines becoming the new normal, residual habits (that were once damaging) could help explain why your ex still hates you, or at the least ignores you.

You embarrassed them in a big way.

It may have felt good after a squabble to embarrass your ex at work, around respected peers, or their parents, especially in a bold, intensely malicious way. But it didnt feel good to them. These kinds of actions quickly snowball into break-up territory, and if this kind of act brought your former relationship to its knees, chances are your ex wont want to be pals for some time.

Painful relationships take time to heal. Until they do, review the old barbs from your previous romantic union for insight into why your ex hates you. And if you want to stop the hate, if you can, you need to work hard at developing new habits that show youve grown.

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