10 Things You Should Do To Get Your Ex Back After A Breakup

Ok, so your relationship with that special someone has come and gone but somehow you still want them back. Heres how to turn that ex-boyfriend, girlfriend or lover into your significant other once again.

1.      Consider why it is you broke up in the first place. It is crucial that you think back on the reasons you broke up in the first place. Was your relationship abusive in anyway? Were any or both of you controlling, mean, or possessive? Did one or both of you cheat? If any of these things happened in your relationship, you may have to think long and hard before headin right back into that kind of relationship.

2.      Be the person your ex fell in love with. Your ex was most likely attracted to you because he or she felt good with you, and you were fulfilling his or her emotional needs. Think on how you may have changed and take definite steps to correct any bad habits and mistakes.

3.      The first thing that you say to your ex is extremely important. Say the wrong words may cost you the chance to ever get your ex back. Never respond to your ex’s request for a breakup by crying and begging them to come back. This more often that not does not work and drives them further away. You need to understand that even though your ex initiates the breakup, there is a good chance that they still harbor good feelings for you.

4.      Use the past to your advantage. If your ex has ever complimented your outfit, wear it again. Or, share a light-hearted memory with them. If you have a chance to meet, do it at a familiar place you used to hang out together.

5.      Listen carefully to your ex’s choice of words. If he or she ever uses an unusual or uncommon word, casually slip it into your conversation again. This subconsciously tells your ex that you are similar due to exclusive and similar ways of talking.

6.      If your break up is less than a couple weeks, completely ignore your ex. Your ex will call you if he or she likes you. If that doesn’t happen, nothing you say or wear will change that. This usually works unless you are dealing with an ex that thinks that if you arent coming after them, you dont care. Sometimes, ignoring your ex makes them feel like you are perfectly fine without them and are moving on, which is the exact opposite of what you want when you are trying to get back them. Be sure you know exactly what kind of person you are dealing with when trying to get your ex back.

7.      Let your ex know you were thinking about them. Remember that one time you two went to dinner at that great new restaurant and had a wonderful time? Leave your ex a short email telling saying you ate there recently and thought of them. And, by the way, how is he or she doing? This is a non-threatening way to have a light conversation, and also, a small request for a reply back.

8.      Pay a little attention to your appearance if you have been neglecting yourself in that department.

9.      Casually ask if your ex would like to do something non-committal. Have a drink with friends, play miniature golf, play tennis or do some other things that friends and first dates alike can do. And whatever it is, keep it fun. Skip out on the serious talks for now. Youll have plenty of time to talk about that later. If your ex initiates it, follow their lead but dont go heavy.

10.    Find other things to focus on. If you focus your attention on a new activity, you will have less time to miss your ex and you’ll ultimately feel stronger and more in control of your life. And if you are still in contact, your ex will notice that you have "moved on". This will make you more desirable to him or her.

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A Mans Guide to Romance 10 Tips for Serving a Romantic Dinner at Home

Guys, want to ignite passion in your relationship? Contrary to what they say in the media, a girl doesnt want diamonds for a best friend. What she really desires is a deep connection with her ideal man.
That does not mean 10 carat diamond rings, or whisking her away to a chateau in Paris will not improve your chances of a hot night. But, unless you are swimming in a trust fund, the sugar daddy approach will not maintain a lasting relationship. You want to be the only man she desires. And for that, my friend, you must master the art of romance.
Learning how to connect with her emotionally, while staying in control, is an important lesson in romance. Thats right, even strong, independent women want to feel taken care of and pampered. A simple way to inject romance and passion in a relationship is cooking her dinner. I know you have heard this a thousand times, but done correctly, the at home date is the ultimate in romance. Here are a few tips to pull off this oldie but goodie.
1. Be spontaneous. Women love mystery. Surprise her for no reason at all and romance will definitely be in the air.
2. Plan all the details. It shows you put thought and time into pleasing her. The at home date is only successful when you take control. If you ask her for help setting up the date, the evening is a bust. You have to put your big boy pants on and make it happen all by yourself.
3. Clear a space. Make sure the house, or at least the room for the big date is tidy and clean. You want to eliminate any possible distractions. Piles of laundry in the background will not garner her undivided attention.
4. Be her personal chef. Do all the cooking yourself! You dont need to make a fancy soufflé. Plan a simple menu you can handle with an appetizer and dessert. Make sure you add one of her favorites to the menu. It can be as easy as a chocolate dipped, homemade, Pillsbury cookie or a baked potato with her favorite fixins. Just be certain her personality is on the plate.
5. Set the Scene. Low light is notoriously romantic. Dim the lights then create soft lighting with candles or white Christmas lights. If the sun is setting open the windows. Simply controlling the lighting will cast a romantic glow on the evening.
6. Lull her into a relaxed state. Turn on background music loud enough to set the mood, yet soft enough to allow for conversation and whispering sweet nothings in her ear.
7. Make it an adult only event. Dont forget to drop your kids off at the sitters. You dont want to go through all this work to have your lover switch into Mommy mode.
8. Give her eye candy. Once everything is set, hop in the shower, put on some suave threads and her favorite cologne. After all, you are the most important part of the scene.
9. Be a gentleman. Take off her coat when she arrives, pull out her chair, and bring her a glass of wine without asking. She is completely capable of doing these simple tasks herself. But, she will appreciate your care and attentiveness.
10. Be attentive. Women love a great listener. Encourage her to share her thoughts by engaging her in conversation. Keep the mood romantic with the right questions. Ask her what she is thinking about; reminisce about your first kiss or the first time you met. Even ask about her turn-ons. Keep it sensual, unhurried and connected.
Follow the advice above and you are sure to experience an unforgettable evening - with many more to come.

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10 Ways to Embrace Square One

You’re moving along on the relationship game board, fairly well into the game, when all of a sudden you’re thrown back to square one: the relationship is over. Regardless of who is to blame, it’s done. 
The dust has settled, all of the “You left this at my house” items have been returned (or trashed depending on how the breakup went) and you are left sitting alone. 

Knowing how to move forward in your life and how to navigate the minefield of starting a new relationship isn’t always obvious, especially when you’re mid-breakup. 

If you’re in a wonderful relationship that is going to last forever, keep these tips for your poor friends who will most likely need it at some point. Plus, then you’ll have it in case you ever need it. Not that you will. But, in case.

1. Let it go. Not just the catchy tune from an animated movie, these three little words can save you a world of hurt. Let go of the relationship and free yourself from its clutches. 

If you were the “breakee”, don’t go and beg the “breaker” to take you back. Rarely does this work, and if it did, the resulting second breakup is just worse somehow. Accept the reality and start to heal. 

2. Make peace. It is ok to have a tidal wave of emotions, and you will have them for a while. That’s ok! Give yourself permission to use all of your feelings – just don’t give yourself permission to act on them. Getting angry at the “breaker”? No problem. Smashing all the windows in breaker’s car? Not a good idea. 

3. Do something. Now is a great time to try something new. Always wanted to learn how to line dance? Take a class. Go on a weekend cruise with a couple of friends. Hike through the mountains.

10 Ways to Embrace Square One

4. Career boost. Pour yourself into your work. Offer to take on an extra project, or take a class or certification course that will help you advance in your workplace. Success at work will make you feel better about yourself, and will help your career advance. 

5. Get chatty. It’s not a good idea to discuss every detail of your sordid breakup story with everyone. (Plus, the cashier at the grocery didn’t want that much information when she asked “How are you today?”). 

Call up a trusted friend or schedule a counselling session with a trained professional to talk about your feelings and pain. Airing your emotions will help you recover from the breakup faster. 

6. Stay single. Often, the idea of being alone makes the breakup feel even worse, so women will rush into a new relationship to help ease the pain. Take some time to do a little soul-searching, and to evaluate what you are looking for in a relationship before jumping back into the dating world. 

7. Say no. Drowning your sorrows can seem like a very good idea when the pain of a breakup is still raw. Using drugs or alcohol as a way to forget your breakup or to dull the pain of losing your relationship seems like a good idea at the time. 

The long term consequences aren’t worth the few hours of forgetting. Hangovers, addiction and embarrassing behavior can all be the results of binge drinking. (Bitter, drunken woman doing karaoke is never good. Remember this.)

Square one is never a fun place to be, but eventually you’ll be ready to start the game again – just make sure you’re ready first. 

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Guide to a Successful Relationship

If you’ve ever been through a breakup or divorce, you may be a little gun-shy about your next serious relationship. You’re suddenly second guessing yourself and every decision that you make. It can be exhausting and a little (lot) frightening to consider starting over with someone new. 

What if the same things happen? What if the problems your last relationship had were all your fault and you bring them to the new relationship? What can you do to start your new relationship off on the right foot? Are there any strategies that you can use to help your new, fledgling relationship find its way towards lasting romance?

If you want to help your relationship start (and stay) strong, here are some Dos and Don’ts to get you going.

Do

Make new friends (but keep the old). The Girl Scouts have it right – you need to keep your girls around. Just because you have a new relationship in your life, you don’t have to get rid of your old friendships. Friends add color, stability and flavor to your life. Maintain your relationships with your friends – even after you and your guy are an established couple. 

Guide to a Successful Relationship

Encourage your new guy to keep his friendships as well. Plan some activities that you can do with each other’s friends and begin to make friends that are new to you both as well. Having friendships outside the relationship is a healthy way to make sure you aren’t solely relying on your partner for your emotional needs. 

Stay true to yourself. Changing who you are and the things that make you unique just to please your partner is one of the worst things you can do. Not only will it lead to resentment (yours) and anger (his), you’re changing the person that your man fell in love with. He loved you for who you were - you shouldn’t have to change to keep that love. 

Don’t

Lying to your partner is a surefire way to erode the trust in your relationship. Even lying by omission is harmful and should be avoided. Sometimes you have to say things that you know will hurt the other person, so you want to lie to spare them the pain. Don’t. Just use the ‘rip the bandaid’ off mentality and tell them the whole, ugly truth. The pain may be sharp, but it will fade. The pain of lying has long term consequences. 

Talking about problems with your relationship with someone of the opposite sex is another big no-no. When you use another man’s shoulder to cry on, sometimes you start to develop an attraction for those big, strong shoulders that so easily carry the weight of your burdens. Stay away from this situation by keeping your mouth closed – and only cry on your girlfriend’s shoulders. 

Using another person to make your partner jealous is not only juvenile, it’s dangerous. Manipulating your partner’s emotions may get you the attention you want, but the result may be a breakup. 
There is no guarantee about relationships. You can only do your part to be the best partner possible and choose someone who feels the same way. Your next relationship can be wonderful!

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