Dating A Jokester

One of the qualities that many women look for in a potential romantic partner is the ability to laugh. It’s a great thing when someone can laugh at themselves and make some truly funny jokes to ensure that anyone around them will also be laughing. However, there can be a problem if a guy is so into being funny that it’s like he never experiences a serious moment. He can be hot, sexy and everything else that you would ever want in a guy, but if all he does is crack jokes, how can you be certain of how he really feels about you?
First of all, decide if he really does have all of the qualities that you require in the ideal man for you. If he’s easy on the eyes, that’s certainly a factor that counts near the top of the list. How does he treat you? Does he take you to nice places on dates? Does he remember important days such as your birthday? Is he someone you can depend upon if you need comfort? All of those things also matter.

Now, let’s look at that joking thing. Does he make jokes at inappropriate times? Can you have sex without him cracking jokes the whole time? That can actually be very annoying, not to mention a real mood killer. What about when he starts laughing at other times that are meant to be romantic? That’s probably going to get on your nerves pretty quickly. You can’t forget those physical types of jokes, either. These fall into the area of sneaking up on you when you’re in the shower and playing Norman Bates while you scream and flail around. Maybe he tends to poke you in the backside every time you bend over for some reason. That’s not any fun when you get to the point that you’re afraid to shower or bend over to pick something up.

If you’re still convinced that he’s the one for you in spite of these ongoing comedy routines, it’s time to sit him down and have a very open and honest conversation about how all of his jokes are affecting your relationship.  Tell him that, while you do appreciate his sense of humor, you also need to have those times when things are NOT funny, such as romance and sex. He needs to understand how it makes you feel when you’re engaging in a very intensely personal moment and he feels the need to crack a joke.

It’s very possible that you can make him see your point of view and find a way to be more humor appropriate. If he still seems to have trouble with his timing, it may be that you need to look into why he feels the need to be so funny all the time. There could be some insecurity that he’s trying to hide behind the laughter and the jokes. Lots of talking may be needed to get to the bottom of it and he may even get some benefit from speaking to a professional.
All isn’t lost just because he likes to make jokes all the time. A little patience may be all it takes.

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Why women freak out around a man unknowingly do things which push him away

Do you know what happens when a woman goes through a difficult
situation with a man?

She keeps freaking out...I call it the freak out syndrome. This is
how the cycle runs...

A woman finds herself in a difficult situation with a man...

She doesnt understand why hes doing what hes doing...

She then tries to do what she assumes is the right thing but it
doesnt work...

She then feels stuck & eventually freaks out.

Its no surprise why so many women are leading a life of silent
desperation.

The point I am trying to make here is that when women drive
themselves completely nuts by freaking out over and over again, it
messes them up completely over time.

But it doesnt stop here...

In fact! Under such a situation a woman unknowingly does things
which push a man further away...
Here are the two most common routes women take...

1- They first try to convince a man.
2- And when the first option doesnt work, they try to argue
their way into his head.

I dont know why but women have this inner belief that if they
can just explain their situation to a man he will somehow get it...

Guess what? It doesnt really work that way. You can never make
him understand your situation when you try hard to drill your point
into his head. In fact! The harder you try, the further he will
pull himself.

And when convincing him doesnt work, they take the second
route, which is to argue or fight and finally when things get
really bad, they use blame and guilt to get their point across.

Let me explain this with a good example...

Lets say your man is starting to get distant & you fear
that maybe he is planning to leave you. You first try to understand
why he is getting distant, but things arent making any sense,
as a result you freak out.

Next, you try to talk to him about it, you say things like -

Honey! I dont know why you are avoiding me like this, what
have I done? Are you planning to leave me? Have you found someone
else? I need answers.

And you still dont get the answers you need and as a result
your anxiety is starting to turn into anger. You feel that you
deserve answers from him...And in the process you say things like...

I am sick & tired of not getting answers from you. You
arent pulling your share of weight in the relationship, I feel
like I am doing all the work. You only care about yourself.

This is a major mistake which can literally shake the foundation of
a relationship. When you use this approach a man only feels
attacked and his first reaction is to get even more distant to
avoid confrontation.

Its important to understand that you cant hold a gun to
his head & make him get it. You are following an utterly
hopeless strategy if you think you can.

There is a better way - There are things you can do & say which
will naturally make a man want to open up to you, give you all the
love you need and be devoted to you for the rest of his life. Follow
this link right now to discover it...

=>>>     READ A MAN

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