Dating Patterns To Avoid

Many times women tend to fall into certain patterns when it comes to dating. 

Now, they don’t have to be negative ones, but they typically are. Once you know what to watch for, though, you’ll find that those patterns will dissipate in no time.

One of those patterns is to stop mistaking comfort for love or attraction. This happens when you meet someone that you feel comfortable with instantly. You already know what to say and not to say around them, what makes them laugh, and other things. What you’re missing here is that he’s a lot like your ex, and most of the exes before him. Stop letting history repeat itself.

Another pretty important thing you want to watch is keeping in touch with your ex. 

Yes, it may seem harmless and you hate to simply cut him off that way. You’ve probably got a thousand excuses as to why you keep texting or calling him. Something you need to remember is that you’ll never move on while your ex is still in the picture.

There’s a lot to be said for companionship, but how many times do you let companionship take hold and settle in while taking the place of excitement. Relationships should have at least some excitement in them so that you’ve got something to look forward to. If there’s too much comfort in your relationship, it won’t be long until it becomes really boring and not worth the effort.

Something else to remember is that you need to pace yourself when you’ve just ended a relationship with someone. 

This is particularly true if you were in a long term relationship.  Give yourself some time to heal before you dive right into dating someone new. Rebound relationships rarely work out.
Some women decide that they’re just dating the wrong types of guys. So instead of trying to figure out what went wrong in the last relationship, they start dating guys opposite from the type they usually date. This is a recipe for disaster.

Something else you should never do is pretend to be something that you’re not. Many women decide that they simply don’t want to feel anything anymore so they try to pretend to be players. Eventually, you’re going to really hurt someone and then you’ll feel awful.

Last, but not least, don’t lie to yourself about what’s really going on in your relationship. 

If he’s seeing other people, but you’re not allowed to, that’s not a relationship. He’s calling all the shots and you’re pretending that it’s all good. The problem is that it’s not all good and you need to stop lying to yourself. He doesn’t love you and you’re not in a true relationship if that’s going on.

Now, if you find yourself repeating any of these patterns over and over again, it’s time to take stock of what you’re really doing when it comes to relationships. Be ready to change what needs to be changed and stand up for yourself. You deserve a true relationship, but you’re not going to do it by repeating destructive patterns.

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Internet Dating Safety

There’s been a lot written and spoken on the subject of dating safety since the introduction of the Internet and all of the dating sites you can find now. Even though so much has been written, it doesn’t mean that it will ever be too much. There’s simply no way to saturate the world with enough information on dating safety. If even one person is saved from harm by the all of available information on how to stay safe when dating someone from the Internet, it’s all been worth it.

To begin with, the Internet is one of the most anonymous entities you’ll find anywhere. People online can be anyone and anything they wish, whether it’s actually the truth or not. They can fool others into believing that they’re respectable and even wealthy when they’re actually borderline criminals with no job. That’s not the worst of it, though. The Internet has made it much easier for predators to find their victims, and that’s why it’s vital to keep a safety plan in place.

NEVER agree to go out with someone that you’ve only JUST started talking to online. This is true whether it’s through a dating site or just a chat room. There are steps you need to take to ensure your safety. The first one of these is to spend some time getting to know this person you’re drawn to. Try to get him to talk to you on a webcam because that will show you a lot about him. It’s also a good idea to try to get as much information as you can about him without having to give him too much of yours. You can take that information and investigate him a bit.

Speaking of giving out information, don’t tell him truly personal things such as your phone number and address. You want to keep him from finding you until you’re sure that you trust him and you’re ready to meet. There’s no way to keep yourself fully safe if you’re giving him your full name, address and phone number right off the bat.

Once you’ve decided that he’s probably ok, set up your first meeting with him in a very public place and during the daylight hours. It’s also a great idea to take a friend along with you so that you’ve got an escape route if you need it. In addition, the guy you’re meeting sees that someone else knows who you’re with if you happen to disappear or turn up harmed. Also, go in your own car so that you’re not stuck depending on him for a ride home. If everything is going well, then you can send your friend on her way.

These are all just common sense rules that everyone needs to follow when engaging in online dating. It doesn’t matter how much you may be tempted to forego the rules, please don’t do it. Consider that dangerous people don’t always appear that way. There are many wolves wearing sheep’s clothing and you don’t want to be trapped by one of them.

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