Many times women tend to fall into certain patterns when it comes to dating.
Now, they dont have to be negative ones, but they typically are. Once you know what to watch for, though, youll find that those patterns will dissipate in no time.
One of those patterns is to stop mistaking comfort for love or attraction. This happens when you meet someone that you feel comfortable with instantly. You already know what to say and not to say around them, what makes them laugh, and other things. What youre missing here is that hes a lot like your ex, and most of the exes before him. Stop letting history repeat itself.
Another pretty important thing you want to watch is keeping in touch with your ex.
Yes, it may seem harmless and you hate to simply cut him off that way. Youve probably got a thousand excuses as to why you keep texting or calling him. Something you need to remember is that youll never move on while your ex is still in the picture.
Theres a lot to be said for companionship, but how many times do you let companionship take hold and settle in while taking the place of excitement. Relationships should have at least some excitement in them so that youve got something to look forward to. If theres too much comfort in your relationship, it wont be long until it becomes really boring and not worth the effort.
Something else to remember is that you need to pace yourself when youve just ended a relationship with someone.
This is particularly true if you were in a long term relationship. Give yourself some time to heal before you dive right into dating someone new. Rebound relationships rarely work out.
Some women decide that theyre just dating the wrong types of guys. So instead of trying to figure out what went wrong in the last relationship, they start dating guys opposite from the type they usually date. This is a recipe for disaster.
Something else you should never do is pretend to be something that youre not. Many women decide that they simply dont want to feel anything anymore so they try to pretend to be players. Eventually, youre going to really hurt someone and then youll feel awful.
Last, but not least, dont lie to yourself about whats really going on in your relationship.
If hes seeing other people, but youre not allowed to, thats not a relationship. Hes calling all the shots and youre pretending that its all good. The problem is that its not all good and you need to stop lying to yourself. He doesnt love you and youre not in a true relationship if thats going on.
Now, if you find yourself repeating any of these patterns over and over again, its time to take stock of what youre really doing when it comes to relationships. Be ready to change what needs to be changed and stand up for yourself. You deserve a true relationship, but youre not going to do it by repeating destructive patterns.
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