Being There Helping Your Partner Come Out To Their Parents

A great many gay people these days are becoming more and more comfortable with being public about their sexual orientation, but there are still a multitude of families that harbor traditional values. If you find yourself in a relationship with a gay man or woman that is still in the closet, there are a few things you can do to ease the situation and handle it with maturity.

The most important thing for you to do is not push your lover too hard to out themselves. Business in the bedroom really is personal. Much how a young person wouldn’t want to, or need to, tell their parents that they lost their virginity, being homosexual really isn’t that different. It’s personal. If you really find it important for them to come out to their parents, then tell them why. Tell them how you want to be with them openly, without having to hide or feel like an embarrassment. Let them know that it makes you feel small and unwanted to sneak around or pretend to be a “friend.”  The first step is talking about it and how you feel.
If they decide to come out, the next step is keeping drama to a minimum. You may find yourself offended, or even intimidated by the views of the family, but if your partner wants you to be there, stay strong and confident.

You want to be friendly regardless of any harsh or hurt words that may be thrown your way. Some families come to terms with it easier, as it is becoming more modern and accepted, but you need to be aware that some families can over react a good bit. It may be hard to remain cool and collected under certain pressure or criticisms, but the best thing you can do is try.
If your partner decides to do it alone, and you are concerned about how the family will react, stay close to them. Keep your phone on you in case they need you, and stay within a close distance of their home. Their family may not react too poorly, but it never hurts to be cautious. Some families are just better off handling it alone.

There’s really not a wrong way for your partner to go about it, because once it’s said, that’s it. As soon as the words are out there, there’s no taking them back. So be sure your partner knows that there won’t be any going back when it’s all said and done.
One of the hardest things about being in a relationship with someone who is still in the closet is if they decide to stay there. If you talk to your partner about your concerns and you tell them how it makes you feel, but they still decide to stay hidden, then you’re going to have to make a choice. Would you be able to hide with them, or would you need to live out loud? That’s the decision you’ll have to make.

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Signs That Hes Not Worth A Second Date

When you go on a date with a new guy, you’re always taking a bit of a risk that he’s not a serial killer or rapist at the worst, or just dull and boring at the least. Dates can go wrong for a lot of different reasons. Maybe he picks his nose or has a braying laugh. There can be other reasons such as there’s no chemistry between you. 

Sometimes, though, it’s not quite so easy to tell if you’ve snagged a loser or not. It may be that he’s perfectly nice and, yes, there’s a bit of chemistry. You just don’t quite know whether or not it’s something you want to pursue. In these situations, there are some ways to tell if he’s worth a second date or not. Look for the following signs that he’s someone you just pass by:

He’s a bad tipper: This is often the sign of a selfish person. He doesn’t need to tip outrageously, but if it’s less than 15 percent, he’s probably cheap in other ways, too.
His parents are “mommy” and “daddy” to him: This might just be a Southern thing, but an adult man calling his parents by these little boy names is just weird.

He’s disrespectful regarding his exes: All people have an ex somewhere in their past that hurt them. There’s also baggage left from the old relationships. The thing is that smart guys learn from these relationships and then they move on. A guy that doesn’t learn will be nasty about his exes and possibly use up valuable conversation time with YOU dissing THEM.

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He’s rude to servers: A man that’s rude to waiters or retail staff will be rude to you, too, sooner or later.
He’ not a reader: If he’s someone that never reads anything other than the sports section of the newspaper or comic books, he’s probably not intellectually well read. This may or may not be ok with you.
He’s a smoker: This tells you that he doesn’t care a lot about his health. On top of that, his breath probably smells like an ashtray.

He never works out: This might not be that big of a deal to all women but if you’re a woman that takes care of herself, you’ll want to date someone that also leads a healthy lifestyle.
He makes rude remarks about other women: Men that laugh about other women’s less than flattering features can’t possibly respect women on a whole. So if you’re out with someone that jokes about someone’s “fat ass” or “sagging tits,” you probably don’t want to see him again.

He doesn’t care about the news: Men that don’t care about the news or what’s happening in the world aren’t a very aware people.
He’s not well-traveled and doesn’t want to be: This man is probably never going anywhere in life because he doesn’t have any desire to ever leave Tiny Town, Anywhere USA. Unless you’re a real homebody, too, this is a man that will bore you to death.

These are just a few of the red flags that you can keep an eye out for when you start dating a new guy. If you spot one or all of these, you might want to keep looking.

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