9 Ways To Improve Communication With Your Partner

It takes two to tango – everyone knows that. So why do we insist on not acknowledging that when it comes to communication? Without talking about things there is no way we can reach a middle ground on any issue, yet many couples are afraid to communicate with each other for fear of “damaging” their relationship. 

Here’s how you can improve your communication as a couple.

1. Listen
Most people listen with the intent to respond. You need to learn how to listen with the intent to listen. It’s a skill many people have no mastered. If you’re already thinking of a reply while someone else is talking, you’re not really listening to what they are saying, so learn to put aside your thoughts for a few moments while you actually consider what it is they are saying, and what they mean by it. 

2. Put aside your opinions
When listening to someone’s point of view during a heated conversation, it’s hear what they say but not really absorb it as we’re so caught up in our own opinion. What you end up hearing is what you “want” to hear, and is not necessarily what they actually said. Tackle this by absorbing what was said, and possibly repeating it to them, to make sure your understanding of what they said is not clouded by your own opinion. 

3. Be honest
A strong relationship requires honesty, and it is a key factor in developing strong communication channels. It may be uncomfortable to reveal the darkest parts of yourself to someone else, but it allows you to move forward as a couple, on the same page. 

9 Ways To Improve Communication With Your Partner

4. Non-verbal clues are important too
The more you get to know each other, the better you will recognize the non-verbal clues you give off. Learn to recognize what actions like lack of eye contact or folded arms means, and you will be able to pick up on the sub-text of the conversation much better. 

5. Stay focused
Don’t bring older issues into a conversation that has nothing to do about them. When you sit down to talk about something, try and keep all conversation centered on it. This is not the time to bring in the fact that your husband has never picked up his towels off the floor – unless that’s what you’re discussing to begin with. Otherwise you’ll keep going in circles and end up frustrated with the lack of progress in reaching a resolution. 

6. Try to keep emotion out of it
It’s easy to get emotional when talking about life-altering decisions, but once one partner gets emotional, the other one will too. And emotional people cannot make rational decisions. Try and keep emotions out of difficult conversations by focusing on the facts. 

7. Be willing to back off
There are times when you will not agree on something. Instead of forcing one person to admit they were “wrong”, sometimes it is better to value the relationship more than a “win” and just back off. You will not agree on everything, and it is better not to force some issues. 

Communication is about more than just talking. When communicating, both parties need to be aware of each other’s feelings and try and listen to what is being said before responding. Try and get on the same page with open communication and you will see your relationship thrive. 

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Being There Helping Your Partner Come Out To Their Parents

A great many gay people these days are becoming more and more comfortable with being public about their sexual orientation, but there are still a multitude of families that harbor traditional values. If you find yourself in a relationship with a gay man or woman that is still in the closet, there are a few things you can do to ease the situation and handle it with maturity.

The most important thing for you to do is not push your lover too hard to out themselves. Business in the bedroom really is personal. Much how a young person wouldn’t want to, or need to, tell their parents that they lost their virginity, being homosexual really isn’t that different. It’s personal. If you really find it important for them to come out to their parents, then tell them why. Tell them how you want to be with them openly, without having to hide or feel like an embarrassment. Let them know that it makes you feel small and unwanted to sneak around or pretend to be a “friend.”  The first step is talking about it and how you feel.
If they decide to come out, the next step is keeping drama to a minimum. You may find yourself offended, or even intimidated by the views of the family, but if your partner wants you to be there, stay strong and confident.

You want to be friendly regardless of any harsh or hurt words that may be thrown your way. Some families come to terms with it easier, as it is becoming more modern and accepted, but you need to be aware that some families can over react a good bit. It may be hard to remain cool and collected under certain pressure or criticisms, but the best thing you can do is try.
If your partner decides to do it alone, and you are concerned about how the family will react, stay close to them. Keep your phone on you in case they need you, and stay within a close distance of their home. Their family may not react too poorly, but it never hurts to be cautious. Some families are just better off handling it alone.

There’s really not a wrong way for your partner to go about it, because once it’s said, that’s it. As soon as the words are out there, there’s no taking them back. So be sure your partner knows that there won’t be any going back when it’s all said and done.
One of the hardest things about being in a relationship with someone who is still in the closet is if they decide to stay there. If you talk to your partner about your concerns and you tell them how it makes you feel, but they still decide to stay hidden, then you’re going to have to make a choice. Would you be able to hide with them, or would you need to live out loud? That’s the decision you’ll have to make.

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Dealing With A Partners Controlling Mother

In a perfect world, everyone would have mothers that knew when to let go of their babies. However, it’s not a perfect world and there are many more of these controlling mothers around than you would have ever thought possible. That’s why the chances are really good that when you hook up with someone romantically, you’re going to also be taking on his very controlling mother.

Now, it’s not all bad. In fact, some mothers aren’t really controlling so much as they really do just want their sons to be happy. With those mothers, you’ve got a chance because, while they might be a bit distant initially, once they see that you adore their “little boy,” they’ll warm right up to you because the two of you have a common goal. All you have to do is show this mother that you do, indeed, love her son and she’ll become your best friend.

Next up are the controlling mothers that feel no woman is good enough for their sons. It wouldn’t matter if you came from royalty and are next in line for the throne. Unless these women have personally handpicked the women for their sons to be with, it’s pretty much a lost cause. Now, if you’re lucky, your guy will understand that his mother is unreasonable and he’ll be the buffer between the two of you. If you’re lucky, he may even agree to move to another state so that you don’t have to be around her and her dislike of you all the time.

The worst of these controlling mothers are something like you probably have never encountered at any point in your life. These women will do anything to keep their sons with them because their belief is that no one on this planet can look after their sons as well as they can. Nothing you do is ever going to be good enough or right, for that matter. Worst of all, she will expect to be included in all parts of your life. If your man can’t say no to her, she’ll be going with you on all trips you take. Every time you and your man have Date Night, she’ll tag along. You’ll probably find her at YOUR house more than at her own. Hopefully, your partner isn’t “mommy whipped” so that he can set boundaries for her and make her keep to them.

The signs are usually there soon enough so that you’re don’t get involved with a guy that’s overly attached to his mother. When you spot them, just cut your losses and run. On the other hand, if you had no warning that you’re inheriting one of these horrible women by getting involved with what you thought was a great guy; you may experience some pain before extricating yourself from the situation. If she’s being unreasonable and trying to act like his wife, attempt to have a talk with him about it. Tell him how that you feel as if you’re married or involved with BOTH of them and that you’re not happy with the arrangement.

She may end up not being an entity you can battle. If that turns out to be true, then the only solution may be to move across the country from her. However, if your man seems unwilling to cut those apron strings, you may just have to walk.

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The Top 5 Mistakes people make when a crisis arises.
The “real” secrets to a healthy, stable, loving marriage.
How to assess the stage of your crisis (there are 8).
How to address any stage of a crisis and turn it around.
What to do, what to say, and what to avoid in order to save your marriage!
Why “hard work” on the relationship isn’t always the answer.
How marriage counseling can be dangerous to your marriage’s future.
Why “low mood therapy” is destined for failure and how “high mood relating” makes the difference.
How to move beyond emotions and take action!
How to find the North Star of your relationship, and why it matters.
Why true intimacy is a lot closer than you think–and how to get there!
What “the TIE Elements of Communication” are, and how they can transform your communication.
How to change the momentum of a relationship, sometimes instantaneously!
What the Practices of Marriage are, and how they can transform your relationship.
Why arguing is a waste of time — and the amazingly simple secret to get around it.
How to become a team, even if you feel like opposites.
Why power is so destructive to relationships and how to change it.
How to deal with problems involving sex or money.
Why anger and resentment are so dangerous, and what to do about it , regardless of whether you or your spouse is angry or resentful
How to make paradigm shifts (literally, quantum leaps!) in the relationship.
Much, much more about how to transform your relationship.
How to begin saving your marriage beginning in less than an hour, maybe in less than 10 minutes!
In short, how to have the marriage of your dreams .
What you have seen in this letter is only a small fraction of what you will find in this book.
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How To Find Out If Your Partner is Cheating On You

By Bobby Franklin

If you suspect your partner cheating on you there are a few things you can do to find out. You need to first see if you are being paranoid or if you are being fair. Its important to have real substantial evidence to come forward with before you accuse someone of something big like this.

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If you suspect your wife of cheating, use the internet find out. Take a look at their Facebook profile and see who they are messaging. If you dont have access to that, there are key logging tools that you can use. Because communication is the way for cheating, take a look at their smart phone. Wait until they are asleep and look through their phone. You never know, they may like your new thing that you like and that may be their new interest. After you have their phone make sure that you get all the numbers that have called.

You may find out interesting things like they are into like a certain personality trait and that is their new thing. After you have their phone make sure that you get all the numbers that have called. If your husband or wife is cheating, the phone bill will tell you if they are calling someone. Then use a reverse phone look up tool to see who they are calling.

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Expressions of Love for Your Partner

Receiving love proves challenging for numerous people. In some cases, they may actively block the sentimental expression or a particular way of hearing they are loved may not resonate with them. What does that mean for the partner seeking to shower their loved one with the deep truth of how big an impact they are? Here are a few ideas, some large and others small, to capture the elusive feeling of adoration one feels for a partner.

Be Appreciative: Hearing how their gestures impact your life helps them know you are paying attention. Far too often, a multitude of kindnesses go ignore building up resentment. Even better, expressing gratitude for who they are, their impact on your life and all the ways the day is better with them emphasizes the depth of your love. Saying thank you seems small, but it pays huge dividends.

The Gift of Time: In our society, people never have time for one another. We rush from one thing to another, look to mark things off our to do list and remain connected to our electronic devices. Imagine receiving the gift of an uninterrupted evening with a loved one when all the outside demands are silenced. It demonstrates how they are the center of your life.

Make a Plan: Think about the special day when you got checked out school early for a game or movie. Or maybe you slipped out of the office early so you could hear the band you liked perform an outdoor concert. Now, take those creative muscles and plan a special day for the one you love. It can be a romantic scavenger hunt all with little nods to how special they are. Even whisking them out of the office for a picnic lunch will show youre thinking of them.

Expressions of Love for Your Partner

Say the Words and Say More: Dont be stingy with the "I Love Yous." We all need to hear it. A sincere "I Love You" brightens anyones day. But dont stop there. Find new and creative ways to express the same sentiment. Maybe whispering "Te amo" in Spanish or "Je tamie" in French can be exciting. Also, try not limiting yourself to the tried and true. Couples find their own expressions of love. Seek the right mix to capture the feelings and say it.

Use Variety: Receiving the same card, gift or words every single time deflates the expression rather than increases it. This means putting on your thinking beret and take a few extra steps.

* Gifts-Flowers, candy or little plastic dinosaurs. Pick the right thing which brings out the warm feelings.
* Notes-Feelings on paper provides a marker to the time and sentiment for your partner. Dont resist a little love poetry either.
* Touches-Hugs, foot rubs and smooches never go out of style and being close feels great for you and your partner.
* Sing-Accompanying your singing on the ukulele may capture the passion brewing in your heart for your special someone.

Deep and lasting love is eternal by definition. This means you need to be creative and excited about expressing your love because time will never run out. And nothing warms a heart like a passionate "I Love You."

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How to Rebuild Trust in a Relationship

Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it’s broken but you will still see the cracks in the reflection. Seeing past those cracks requires a lot of effort from both parties involved. Here are a few tips to help rebuild trust after instances of infidelity or when picking up the pieces after a divorce.

Grieve. 
When someone betrays you, you go through the five stages of grief, these are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally, acceptance. Don’t try to fight any of these stages and don’t let any of them consume you. Believing that each stage will come to pass is what will keep you from doing something foolish. If you feel that you are not able to handle any of the stages of grief then seek professional help.

Commitment. 
Before efforts to rebuild trust in a relationship are undertaken, both parties must be committed to rebuilding the trust in the relationship. Trust is a two way street, you are either both in or not. Rebuilding trust is not an easy feat, it takes real effort from both parties and will only be successful if you are both fully committed to making it work.

How to Rebuild Trust in a Relationship

Be an open book. 
Trust is earned; earning it back after losing it in the first place means can only happen if you are open. Do not give your partner any reason to doubt you. Do not use cryptic language to explain what you were doing, where you are going or whom you were with. Most importantly, expect the same from your spouse. Share passwords, explain yourself in detail and always be accountable for everything you do or say. This way there will be no gray areas in your relationship and you will have no reason to doubt each other.

Put in the time and effort. 
If you are the betrayer, you need to first give your spouse the time and space to vent. This may involve some furniture throwing, hurling of insults or passive aggressive action. Whatever they do, take it because you probably deserve it. Next, you need to find out what your partner needs. Is it some level of reassurance, closure or explanation? Find out whatever it is you need to do to make things better. Basically, you need to be consistently available for your partner to respond, comfort and reassure them. If you are the victim, you need to accept what has happened and not wallow in self-pity or over indulge in playing the victim. Consciously choose to look for a solution rather than finding ways to torment yourself and others.

Knowing when to quit. 
The most important thing about rebuilding trust in a relationship is trusting yourself and knowing when to abandon ship. This type of decision can only be made when you trust yourself first. Trusting your judgment means knowing your limits and how much you can take before throwing in the tools and moving on with your life.

Broken trust does not necessarily have to result in a divorce or breakup. It is possible to build a stronger and more trusting relationship if both parties are committed to making their relationship work.

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