Heartbreak 101

Finding fulfillment after heartbreak can seem difficult. What should you keep in mind to survive your relationship breakdown?

1. You are not delusional. Many times after a breakup, women second guess themselves – and begin to think that they were not actually in love, or that it wasn’t true love to begin with. Just because the relationship ended does not negate the reality of your feelings. 

2. Don’t play the “What If?” game. Don’t spend time wondering about what could happen (“Will he find someone else? Will his new partner be prettier/smarter/a better cook than me?”) Trying to imagine what will happen only prolongs your heartache, and is not helping you to recover. Spend your time focusing on moving past the relationship. 

3. Release the anger. Anger is an important part of the stages of grief. You need to feel anger – it helps you to move beyond the relationship. Don’t hold on to the anger for too long. Sometimes anger becomes a habit and is causing more harm than good. Feel anger, and then move on. 

4. Let go of the connection. It is tempting to go back to the relationship – even after it is over. Many women want to beg their ex to take them back, promising to change or do things differently. Accept the end of the relationship. Don’t try to force a broken relationship to work. 

Heartbreak 101

5. Get help. Find a support group – family and friends are a great place to start. If you are not near people who can give you the support and encouragement you need, consider joining a therapy or support group. If you have thoughts of suicide or of acting out in anger, seek professional therapy or counselling.

6. Understand your worth. Just because your relationship ended, it does not mean that you are unworthy or unable to be loved. Not everyone is capable of giving you the love you need. This isn’t your fault! You have immense value and worth – keep looking until you find the person who appreciates and recognizes it.

7. Onward and upward. It may seem like the end of the world – but it will get better. Focus on taking care of yourself: healthy eating, exercise and proper rest; as well as making changes in your life that are for the better. As you begin to heal, you’ll find that you are moving beyond the heartbreak and into a place of wholeness that will be a good starting point for a new relationship. 

Heartbreak can give you a new perspective on the world. You may learn to appreciate the value of a love you once had, or may make you appreciate the small pleasures of sitting quietly in the park and watching the birds. 

Use heartbreak to motivate you to try a new experience, meet new people or travel to new places. Yes heartbreak hurts. But it does heal, and you can recover. Don’t be afraid to let yourself get better, you only have to be willing to take a chance on yourself – and love.

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Setting Healthy Boundaries

Every relationship is a series of give and take – sometimes you give more, sometimes you take more. A healthy relationship moves back and forth between the two areas, with ease and understanding. 

When a relationship is in its beginning stages, it is important to set healthy boundaries to ensure the success of the relationship. If boundaries are not set, either one or the other of the members of the relationship may begin to feel imposed upon, and will be unhappy in the relationship. This leads to breakup and discontent.

Boundaries are both physical and emotional. Physical boundaries include the ideas of who can touch us, and how they can touch us. A random stranger in the grocery store has a different set of boundaries than your mom, for example. 

If your mom hugged you, you probably wouldn’t react with shock or discomfort. Physical boundaries are important to help you feel physically safe and comfortable. 

Emotional boundaries are equally as important. Boundaries in your emotions dictate how you respond to people around you. If you feel as though you are responsible for someone else’s emotional well-being, you have a low level of emotional boundaries. 

Setting Healthy Boundaries

People who have low emotional boundaries generally have chaotic lives – full of drama and stress. 

Analyze your own emotional boundaries at the beginning of a relationship to help identify areas where you need to work. Boundaries that are too tight can be seen in a person who never lets anyone get too close. 

They seem distant and self-reliant. They generally have very tight physical and emotional boundaries – no one is allowed within the rigid walls of their person. 

Someone with loose boundaries is often sexually promiscuous, is easily hurt and easily angered. They have no protection or boundary line, and are in constant need of reassurance. The person with no boundaries is easily hurt – both physically and emotionally.

A healthy set of boundaries is firm, but flexible. There are definite areas that are off limits, but the boundary may change as circumstances change. At the beginning of a relationship, for example, there may be limited physical contact, but as the relationship progresses, the boundary of physical touch may change. 

Emotionally, someone may be held at arm’s length until they have shown themselves to be trustworthy and secure. Not everyone will respect your boundaries – be firm in your boundary setting and choose your relationships wisely.

It is important to discuss your boundaries with the person you are in a relationship with. This can be handled in a calm and friendly manner, letting the other person know that you value their friendship but that there are certain restrictions to the relationship. 
Boundary setting is a continual process and can lead to a sense of self-worth and self-appreciate. It is exciting to know that you can be your true self with another person, and that they understand and know the real you. Don’t be afraid to establish relationship boundaries at the beginning of a new relationship – they set the stage for a lasting and secure relationship. 

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Undeniable Signs Hes In Love With You

Its not always easy to tell if a man is actually in love with you or just really likes you. But there are a few surefire ways to tell so you can stop wondering.

Youre His Top Priority

He thinks about you often and keeps in contact frequently throughout the day. He includes you in his plans and appreciates it when you do the same for him. In conversation, he uses words like "us", "we", and "ours". This indicates he subconsciously wants you to be a part of his future.

He Respects You and Treats You Well

When a man loves a woman he is attentive to her needs, feelings, and desires. In fact, if hes really in love with you, chances are he will put your needs first over his own. 

Often he will go out of his way to make your life better in some way and also show respect and courtesy to your friends and family as well.

A Man in Love Will Tell His Friends All About You

If a man shows you affection, especially in public, it clearly indicates hes proud of you and wants everyone to see that youre his main squeeze. 

He wants all his friends and family to know about you and invites you to special family functions and even company gatherings.

Undeniable Signs Hes In Love With You 

Most of His Free Time is Spent With You

Youre the one he wants to see in his free time. He chooses to go everywhere with you and spend major holidays together such as Christmas, New Years Eve, Thanksgiving, and of course, Valentines Day.

If a Man Loves You, He Cares About Your Life

A man who truly loves you is genuinely happy when things go well for you. In challenging times, hes the first one to comfort you and stay by your side. Hes the epitome of a stand-up guy whos willing to go the extra mile on your behalf. 

A love-smitten man will likely think of fun ways to surprise you in order to keep you happy. When faced with adversity or danger, he rushes to your side to show his clear intention of protecting you and everything about you.

Men in Love Dont Cheat

If a man loves you, there is no way he is going to cheat on you with another woman. No excuses. Yes, men are hard-wired to spread their seed and procreate in the animal kingdom. But an honorable man whos deeply in love with a woman wouldnt think of it. 

He only desires the object of his affection - you. Also, he treats your relationship with the utmost integrity and honor. He is trustworthy, noble, and loyal when it comes to your connection with him. He does what he says hes going to do out of respect for you.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Never believe a man when he says "I love you" if his actions and behaviors arent aligned with his words. Does he say "I love you" and then turn around and text another woman secretly behind your back? 

If so, he doesnt truly love or respect you. Your gut instinct will let you know whether hes simply feeding you a line for some ulterior motive or if he truly means it. Also, read his body language when he says it.

Trust your intuition - its right 100% of the time.

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Reasons to Move on After Heartbreak

The world is constantly changing and so are you. And just because a certain someone was right for you at one time doesnt mean they always will be. This is true in virtually every area of life including your career, home, habits, and your relationships.

Although we cant visibly see it, we are continually evolving into a bigger and better version of ourselves. Sometimes, as much as it hurts, we have to let go of someone because we grew in a different direction from them. 

Its not good or bad - it just is. And the sooner you realize this, the quicker you can heal your heartbreak and move on with your own life. Have you even considered theres someone better for you out there? Someone perhaps more compatible?

Your lifestyle and the lifestyle of the person who broke your heart eventually stopped being compatible. If you can accept that your values were heading on a different course, you will understand why your union was temporary whether you were with them 3 years or 30 years. People change.

Lets explore why its in your best interest to let go and move on.

1. Your Partners Negativity is Starting to Make You Negative

Your partners negativity is starting to rub off on you, and since you are the company you keep - youre turning into a negative, sour person. 

Who you spend the majority of your time with greatly influences the person you are evolving into. Ever notice how your mood changes if youre around negative, pessimistic people for any length of time?

2. You and Your Partner Have Grown Apart

Sadly, no matter how much you wish things could be different, either you or your partner has slowly progressed away from your fundamental values. Truthfully, this is a natural part of life in many instances. Can you imagine how dreadful it would be if nothing and no one ever evolved, progressed, or changed? Unfortunately, this principle applies to couples as well and they simply grow apart.

Reasons to Move on After Heartbreak 

3. Your Primary Goals and Needs Have Changed

What worked for you in the beginning of a relationship no longer works now. You are different and so is your partner. Youre not the same person you were 5 minutes ago let alone after 5 years. Its hard to let go and may be difficult to start fresh with your new truth, but its necessary.

4. You are Afraid to Let Go

Depending on how long youve been in a relationship with someone, it may be overwhelming and scary to think of yourself on your own. 

So you have to ask yourself - do you want to remain in a miserable but somewhat secure (financial) relationship? Or take a leap of faith in order to find a level of happiness youve never known before? 

Dont let your disappointments and fears hold you back from living your best life ever.

5. Old Grudges and Resentments

Youre letting an old grudge keep you from complete happiness and joy. Holding on to hatred, resentment, and anger doesnt hurt or affect the other person, it only hurts you. 

Forgiving someone doesnt mean its okay what they did to you; what it does mean is youre willing to forgive, forget, and move on. The Universe will take care of their wrongdoings in terms of karma, so no worries there. 

Let go of the pain this person has caused you and anyone else for that matter. The grudge is only hurting you.

No matter how much it hurts, sometimes the best and obvious answer is to simply let go and move on. And when you do, doors will open for you in ways you never thought possible. Trust that it will happen, and it will.

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