Online Dating Facts You May Not Know

When it comes to online dating, nearly everyone should know by now that you need to be careful about giving out too much personal information to strangers, and that you need to take precautions when meeting for the first time. However, there are some other facts that are just kind of good to know regarding online dating. You may or may not know them, but it’s always helpful to review a bit:
Money Talks:  A significant number of women that look online for men are interested only in the ones that have a lot of money. Can you say “gold digger?”  This may serve as a warning to wealthy men that it may not be your gorgeous good looks or scintillating conversation that are drawing some very attractive women to you.

Picky Women: Something that’s been proved over and over again is that women are generally more selective when it comes to choosing men. This is true even when there’s 2 women for every man. Men tend to work a lot faster for various reasons and often end up with the wrong women. So maybe women aren’t actually picky but rather they’re patient.
Men Want Young and Pretty Women: While most women focus on money, men focus on beauty and youth. This is due to the fact that most men want someone they can have beautiful babies with and women want to be secure.

Everyone Wants Common Ground: Having things in common is pretty important for a successful relationship. That may be why people gravitate toward others that like the same things they do. For instance, smokers will attract smokers while non-drinkers will attract other non-drinkers. Similarities are important.
Poor Punctuation Repels: Something that’s a bit surprising is how much attention people pay to grammar. In dating profiles, poor grammar can be very off putting no matter how hot or rich you might be.
Honesty Matters: If you’re serious about meeting someone that you’ve come into contact with online, then you must be honest about everything. Remember not to say you’re 25 years old and weigh 120 pounds if you’re really 38 and weight 160. These things will be noticed, as will any other lie that you may have told.
Long Term Relationships or Hook ups: There are now dating sites for all sorts of people. What you need to decide is whether or not you want a true long term relationship or you’re just interested in hooking up. As you can imagine, there’s a huge difference between the two. So, do your research before you pay any kind of membership fees.

Too Many Choices can be Confusing:  While it may seem that the more choices you have the better, that’s not exactly true. If you’ve got too many options on the table, it can become confusing and you end up not choosing the most compatible potential partner.
No Stigma: Dating websites once carried a stigma of sorts, but that’s no longer true. Many people turn to dating sites because they’re too busy to waste their time on experimental dating. They like that someone else does all the elimination for them.
These are just a few things to know if you’re considering the online dating route. They’re by no means absolutes, but just some things to keep in mind.

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Making up in the Movies Why Doesnt it Really Work That Way

Youve seen it happen in the movies dozens, if not hundreds of time. Boy meets girl. Girl falls in love with boy. Boy breaks girls heart (mean boy!). Girl breaks up with boy. Boy makes heroic effort with giant 1980s boom boxes, saying "hello," flying a jet, and countless other antics to win her heart back. The problem is, one person is writing the script for both of them in the movies. Theyre playing pre-defined roles and following cues. Real life doesnt quite work that way. 

Lack of Originality

Unfortunately, a lot of guys havent gotten the memo. Youre still trying to use moves that have been used before. Sadly, these are moves the girls youre trying to get back together with already know about too.

Your ex doesnt want you to copy something thats been done before. If youre going to make a move to get her back, it had better, at the very least, be original. It needs to be something she hasnt seen before. It also needs to be something that you would do. It needs to appear sincere. Using movie lines as your guide makes her feel as though she isnt 
important enough to you for something original. 

Not Appropriate for Your Situation

Every relationship is different. Every breakup is somewhat unique. You can be having the same arguments as 10,000 other couples around the world, but there are things about the two of you and your situation that make those same arguments and situations unique.

No matter what the reason for the breakup was, your situation is different than Harry and Sallys (When Harry Met Sally), Joe and Kathleens (Youve Got Mail), Maverick and Charlies (Top Gun), and Pat and Tiffanys (Silver Linings Playbook). You need to take the time and make the effort to come up with something unique and specific to your romantic situation. More importantly, it needs to be something that will matter to her and melt her heart.

Alternative Endings Worth Considering

That is, of course, if youre going for movie magic effects. However, you could do something else altogether. Something she may even find curious and shocking. You could let her go -- at least for a little while. Instead of going after the girl, give her a little time to think things through. 

Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Then, after a little time has passed, chances are you wont need to call her. Shell call you. When that happens, you can both enjoy a happy ending thats much better than anything Hollywood could come up with because its the story that belongs to the two of you and no one else.

The Secret you need to know to get her back! From the man that has helped over 50 000 people in 77 countries to get back together again after a broken relationship!

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Its Me Or The Dog

How many times have you heard the phrase “It’s me or the dog?” Most of the time it’s said in a joking manner, but there are those occasions that when these words are uttered, they’re totally serious. It may not be such a big deal unless it’s someone that you’re hoping to have a romantic relationship. Seriously, you can say “Ok, bye” to your friend, your brother, sister or even a parent. But when it comes to someone that you’re attracted to and want to go further with, it’s a lot more difficult to just wave goodbye. 

Obviously, if you’ve got a pet, then you love animals. This is a very good quality in you. People that love animals are generally very good people. Taking that into consideration, turn that thinking in another direction. What does the fact that your person of interest doesn’t like animals say about him? Doesn’t it make you feel as if you should be looking at him a bit more closely? If someone has no love for animals, there’s usually a very huge hole within them somewhere. 

Take a very close look at this person that seems to hate your pet. How does your pet react around him? Animals are pretty good at picking up on whether or not people like them. If your pet is somewhat hostile to your new friend, there’s probably a reason. However, on the other hand, if this guy keeps claiming that he doesn’t like dogs, for instance, but your dog keeps trying to sit on his lap and lick his face, chances are that this guy is trying to sell you a bill of goods. In this instance, the more time that your dog and your man spend together, they will most likely become fast friends before you know it. 

You also have to consider that if your man is telling you that he LOVES dogs but all your dog wants to do is bite him and growl at him, you need to consider that he just might be lying to you. Also, if he’s lying to you about that, then what else might he be lying to you about? Your dog could be protecting you from getting involved with a less than savory character. 

In the end, though, you’re the only one that can decide if you want to throw over your loyal pet in favor of a new guy that may or may not work out. Before you make the rash choice to take your once beloved pet to the pound, consider what a great companion he has been to you. He’s probably outlasted several boyfriends already, and he just might have outlasted this one, too. Think it all through very carefully because there are not guarantees that this guy is going to be “the one.” Even if he does have potential, just how much could you possibly have in common with someone that isn’t going to allow you to have a pet if you’re going to be with him? Don’t be shocked if he brings home a pet snake one day. That’s when you’ll know that you probably should have kept your dog. 

The Secret you need to know to get your lover back! From the man that has helped over 50 000 people in 77 countries to get back together again!

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Its Over So Get Over It

So you are sitting in a dark room with a tub of ice cream in your lap and tissues piled up next to you on the bed because you found out he was talking to his ex on Facebook. That is something that happens to a lot of people these days, especially when you consider how popular social sites have become. But that doesn’t mean you have to let it take you into a pit of despair. Sure, its going to hurt for a bit but you will eventually get over him and move on with your life like it never happened.

Moving on from a relationship is a hard thing to do most of the time. Even when your partner has done something so completely stupid that you have no issues walking out the door, the days that follow will be filled with sleepless nights and all the good memories that the two of you shared together. Guys and gals alike will go through things like this at the end of a relationship no matter what happened to cause it to end. The bad thing is that there is no one set way of making things return to normal.

Some people may think going out to parties and drinking a lot will help them move on with their lives. For some of them, it might help, but everyone knows that when you start drinking to forget something like a relationship, you end up doing something even more stupid than you did to end it all. The fact is you will try to get even with that person by sleeping with someone you never would have slept with if you were sober, and that is not the way to go about things.

You have to look at the end of your relationship much like a death in the family; you have to give yourself the time you need to mourn and grieve for what has been lost before you can find the willpower to recover from it. If you allow yourself to slowly come to the realization that what you had is gone and in the past, then you can move forward and find a new path that you can walk down. Hopefully, this time it will be with someone that ends up being a lot better than the idiot you just caught talking to his ex on Facebook.

Now that may not seem like a very constructive way of handling things to most people, but the truth is everyone handles things like this differently. The one thing you don’t want to do is go out and do something stupid that you are going to regret later on. You can go out with your friends and have some fun, but don’t get so drunk that you cant remember which members of the football team you went home with. That is counterproductive and can end up causing even more problems in your life than just sitting at home eating ice cream with a close friend and thinking about how you are going to get through all of this.

If you are in pain and confused?

Here’s some good news…

Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse…even the worst situations you can imagine…like men serving prison sentences have salvaged their relationships. Yes, even Ex-cons have got back together with girlfriends and wives after being away for years!

There is hope…

Now I can almost see you shaking your head in disbelief…

And it’s okay…let me ask?

Don’t you know couples that have gotten back together? A girl that has taken a guy back?…or vice versa?

I bet you do…and here’s the strange real clincher…

Do you remember why they broke up in the first place? I bet you know at least one guy or gal that took their lover back after an affair…or unfaithfulness…or worse even?

Think about it for a sec…

Sure! And I bet you know of…or have heard of at least one girl that has taken a guy back that REALLY should not have…you know the ones I am talking about…(and I know this is kind of dark)… the girls or guys that are in verbally or physically abusive relationships.

Now, that is some really dark stuff and I am not recommending to anyone to take someone back if the relationship was abusive…I am using it as a point that almost NO SITUATION is unsalvageable…

“Couples reunite every day REGARDLESS of the situation!”

Seriously, Doesn’t that make sense? That if most of us can think of couples that have gotten back together…under even some horrible circumstances…that there could be somehidden recipe, or secret even, to reigniting passion and recapturing lost love?

Now…I am not saying they were holding some “secret love spell” book and doing weird chants…not at all…at the same time somehow, by MOSTLY accident they said and did the RIGHT THINGS at the RIGHT TIME…and won back the heart of their lover…or at least created the circumstances where their ex gave them a second chance.

Allow me to repeat…they did this by mostly ACCIDENT!

Imagine…

What if? What they said…and what they did…could be “bottled” so to speak? And then you could “unbottle” it and put it to use? To erase old hurts…to reignite passion again…to turn back to a time when your relationship was fresh, new and exciting.

Yes…A Magic Love Recipe…in a sense…

You see there IS a “recipe for love” as well as a recipe for winning back and keeping some ones interest, desire, passion, heart and love…

What they did by “accident” can be repeated over and over on PURPOSE!

And you know what?

If I were you…I would be somewhat skeptical right now…that’s totally fine! I am going to show you some concrete proof. Just bear with me okay?

Do you have these symptoms?

-Leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry

-Loss of appetite

-Binge eating for comfort

-Calling your ex several times a day

-Text messaging and emailing constantly (Text Message Terrorism)

-Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he/she called

-Not going out because you are afraid to miss a call

-Thinking non-stop about why they REALLY left you

-Feeling massively depressed

-Feeling urges to spy on them

-Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said

-Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them

…and when you do get a hold of them, it usually turns ugly because without a clear plan of what you are supposed to do…what happens? P-A-N-I-C…defensiveness…arguments…and then it gets really nasty.

Do you make these mistakes with your ex?

-We try to convince them we are the love of their life

-We will apologize profusely for everything

-Promise to change for good this time

-Try to get them to see that it wasn’t really our fault

-Even beg with them to take us back

…and of course with every word we utter, regardless of our intention, the more and more defensive, angry and distant they become.

Please know…this is not your fault! You weren’t taught this in school. You probably weren’t taught this by your parents…and there is no “get your ex back” night school…

Yeah?

And it is really a shame too because what could be more important than love?..Cars?…Money?…Clothes?…ALGEBRA?

So why? Are there all kinds of books, magazines and help on fixing a car,managing money and all the latest fashions, yet very little USEFUL information on how to fix a broken relationship…manage your emotions or getting the love of your life back?

Crazy huh?

And now as you will soon see…all that has changed.

“T Dub” Discovers His “Love Recipe”

Please allow me to introduce myself…My name is T.W. Jackson, I know kinda weird…it’s a long story…you can just call me “T Dub”…I want to say right off the bat, that I am not a psychologist, Doctor or some relationship guru…In fact I royally piss off the academic types and I’ll tell you why in a second…

I have been a military brat…or in the military for a majority of my life. In fact I joined the US Navy when I was a ripe old 17 years of age. Because of my life long military experience I’ve had dozens of homes…in 11countries… and lived long term in 5 states in the U.S.

And because I have lived in so many places and changed schools so often as a kid…I had to learn…and learn REALLY FAST…how to get along with people. And people from ALL WALKS OF LIFE. I can sit down and have some sake with my friend in Tokyo…or pop open a can of suds and fish Lake Dardanelle with an Arkansas “redneck” buddy of mine…makes no difference…

More importantly…I became really good at reading people, understanding what makes them “tick” and even got to a point where I could influence their behavior and actions.

In fact, I got quite good at doing this, so good in fact that I was the “go to” guy whenever my friends had just about any kind of “people problem”…I kind of felt like the male version of “Dear Abby”…

Maybe you even know someone a little like me?…someone that you go to when you have “people problems”…

Anyway…I got a ton of practice keeping relationships together…and putting them back together after they had come apart…because the divorce rate for military couples is MUCH HIGHER than average.

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