Making up in the Movies Why Doesnt it Really Work That Way

Youve seen it happen in the movies dozens, if not hundreds of time. Boy meets girl. Girl falls in love with boy. Boy breaks girls heart (mean boy!). Girl breaks up with boy. Boy makes heroic effort with giant 1980s boom boxes, saying "hello," flying a jet, and countless other antics to win her heart back. The problem is, one person is writing the script for both of them in the movies. Theyre playing pre-defined roles and following cues. Real life doesnt quite work that way. 

Lack of Originality

Unfortunately, a lot of guys havent gotten the memo. Youre still trying to use moves that have been used before. Sadly, these are moves the girls youre trying to get back together with already know about too.

Your ex doesnt want you to copy something thats been done before. If youre going to make a move to get her back, it had better, at the very least, be original. It needs to be something she hasnt seen before. It also needs to be something that you would do. It needs to appear sincere. Using movie lines as your guide makes her feel as though she isnt 
important enough to you for something original. 

Not Appropriate for Your Situation

Every relationship is different. Every breakup is somewhat unique. You can be having the same arguments as 10,000 other couples around the world, but there are things about the two of you and your situation that make those same arguments and situations unique.

No matter what the reason for the breakup was, your situation is different than Harry and Sallys (When Harry Met Sally), Joe and Kathleens (Youve Got Mail), Maverick and Charlies (Top Gun), and Pat and Tiffanys (Silver Linings Playbook). You need to take the time and make the effort to come up with something unique and specific to your romantic situation. More importantly, it needs to be something that will matter to her and melt her heart.

Alternative Endings Worth Considering

That is, of course, if youre going for movie magic effects. However, you could do something else altogether. Something she may even find curious and shocking. You could let her go -- at least for a little while. Instead of going after the girl, give her a little time to think things through. 

Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Then, after a little time has passed, chances are you wont need to call her. Shell call you. When that happens, you can both enjoy a happy ending thats much better than anything Hollywood could come up with because its the story that belongs to the two of you and no one else.

The Secret you need to know to get her back! From the man that has helped over 50 000 people in 77 countries to get back together again after a broken relationship!

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