Is Friendship Possible After a Bad Breakup

Romantic relationships are often built upon an already strong friendship between two individuals. From there, a relationship can blossom into something filled with blissful memories.

Not all romances last forever, though, and many of them falter at some point. Even the strongest bonds can be broken. Unfortunately, nothing is worse than an acrimonious relationship that ends badly for both parties involved.

Countless arguments can follow that breakup, so can two individuals find friendship later on?

Friendship After a Relationship: Is it Possible?
Without a doubt, the real world is filled with countless examples of failed relationships breaking apart a friendship. Most individuals find it difficult to return to that old friendship, especially after an acrimonious breakup.

One person might desire that friendship once again, while the other wants nothing to do with them. Therefore, failed relationships often break apart the friendship for good, and that trend is hard to avoid. Certain people can succeed here once again.

It’s a Two-Way Street
Both individuals need to desire that friendly bond again, though. If only one person wants the relationship to resume, it becomes difficult for the other person to believe that it will ever blossom once again.

With that in mind, an individual who desires a friendly, platonic relationship should wait awhile to announce such desires. After a bad breakup, people tend to want nothing to do with their former significant other. Time doesn’t always heal all wounds, but it certainly makes rekindling a relationship more of a possibility.

Give It Time and Proceed Slowly
Broken relationships are the hardest bonds in the world to repair, even when a person only desires friendship. Still, an individual should consider contacting their former lover after a few months. It could be a simple text or e-mail asking how that person is doing.

A random encounter out in public poses a decent opportunity, too. Either way, a person should start the conversation slowly and focus upon the present instead of the past.

Focus On Everything But the Past
By keeping the conversation tied to the present, both individuals can focus on how they’ve grown. Acrimonious relationships are best forgotten, and a focused conversation helps achieve that goal.

A former lover is likely to be more receptive to a conversation about the present and future than the past. Obviously, nobody likes bringing up negative memories from a past relationship. At that point, one can bring up the notion of rekindling the friendship again.

Progress Won’t Happen Overnight Here
Sometimes, the other person will agree with that idea, but that’s no guarantee. Even if both parties agree, it’s always a smart idea to take things slowly.

An individual who tries to rush back into the relationship again may have ulterior motives. By proceeding slowly, a bond can be slowly formed once again. A rekindled friendship after an acrimonious relationship can sometimes be stronger than the original bond.

In the end, you’ll experience mixed results attempting to keep a friendship with your significant other after a breakup. Some people will be open to the idea, and others will resist such a notion flat out.

You shouldn’t press the issue right after a relationship ends, but it doesn’t hurt to try reviving that old friendship down the road. For obvious reasons, acrimonious breakups make holding onto a friendship much more difficult, but friendship, or even a more serious relationship, isn’t necessarily impossible.

If you are in pain and confused?

Here’s some good news…

Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse…even the worst situations you can imagine…like men serving prison sentences have salvaged their relationships. Yes, even Ex-cons have got back together with girlfriends and wives after being away for years!

There is hope…

Now I can almost see you shaking your head in disbelief…

And it’s okay…let me ask?

Don’t you know couples that have gotten back together? A girl that has taken a guy back?…or vice versa?

I bet you do…and here’s the strange real clincher…

Do you remember why they broke up in the first place? I bet you know at least one guy or gal that took their lover back after an affair…or unfaithfulness…or worse even?

Think about it for a sec…

Sure! And I bet you know of…or have heard of at least one girl that has taken a guy back that REALLY should not have…you know the ones I am talking about…(and I know this is kind of dark)… the girls or guys that are in verbally or physically abusive relationships.

Now, that is some really dark stuff and I am not recommending to anyone to take someone back if the relationship was abusive…I am using it as a point that almost NO SITUATION is unsalvageable…

“Couples reunite every day REGARDLESS of the situation!”

Seriously, Doesn’t that make sense? That if most of us can think of couples that have gotten back together…under even some horrible circumstances…that there could be somehidden recipe, or secret even, to reigniting passion and recapturing lost love?

Now…I am not saying they were holding some “secret love spell” book and doing weird chants…not at all…at the same time somehow, by MOSTLY accident they said and did the RIGHT THINGS at the RIGHT TIME…and won back the heart of their lover…or at least created the circumstances where their ex gave them a second chance.

Allow me to repeat…they did this by mostly ACCIDENT!

Imagine…

What if? What they said…and what they did…could be “bottled” so to speak? And then you could “unbottle” it and put it to use? To erase old hurts…to reignite passion again…to turn back to a time when your relationship was fresh, new and exciting.

Yes…A Magic Love Recipe…in a sense…

You see there IS a “recipe for love” as well as a recipe for winning back and keeping some ones interest, desire, passion, heart and love…

What they did by “accident” can be repeated over and over on PURPOSE!

And you know what?

If I were you…I would be somewhat skeptical right now…that’s totally fine! I am going to show you some concrete proof. Just bear with me okay?

Do you have these symptoms?

-Leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry

-Loss of appetite

-Binge eating for comfort

-Calling your ex several times a day

-Text messaging and emailing constantly (Text Message Terrorism)

-Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he/she called

-Not going out because you are afraid to miss a call

-Thinking non-stop about why they REALLY left you

-Feeling massively depressed

-Feeling urges to spy on them

-Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said

-Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them

…and when you do get a hold of them, it usually turns ugly because without a clear plan of what you are supposed to do…what happens? P-A-N-I-C…defensiveness…arguments…and then it gets really nasty.

Do you make these mistakes with your ex?

-We try to convince them we are the love of their life

-We will apologize profusely for everything

-Promise to change for good this time

-Try to get them to see that it wasn’t really our fault

-Even beg with them to take us back

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