He will never tell you any of this.
In fact, hes dying to read this article, but he would never let you catch him doing it, and he certainly wont admit to wanting to know if his deep, dark secrets are hanging out like underwear on a clothesline. In the front yard. In the middle of a busy city. (Hah!)
Well, he wont tell you, but I will.
But first, two warnings:
First, this isnt a complete list. Of course! But I think these are the two biggest ones. (Im working on more articles about a few of the others
)
Second, Im not telling you so you can shame him. Im doing this so you can help him. But you have to be sneaky, so that he doesnt know. Be nice to your man he worships the ground you walk on, and believe me, he knows a few of your dirty dark secrets, too.
On to the juice, shall we?
GUY FEAR #1: My sexual desires are NOT okay
I wont tell you that old thing about how guys want waaay more sex that women do, because its actually not true. Women want it, we just want it under different terms. He just
wants it. Every possible way he can imagine it. With your sister, your mom, the librarian (definitely the librarian), the teenager snapping her gum behind the cash register. Hes even had a dirty fantasy about that weird shopping cart lady.
Sex movies of every description (multiple lovers, bondage, fetish, you name it) run in his brain nearly all the time, and sometimes whats showing on the screen shocks even him.
Deep down, hes terrified that he wants sex too much, or in the wrong ways, with the wrong people. His sex drive is a formidable machine, and its a testament to his power that he doesnt let it drive his life, only his brain.
What YOU can do to help him
Creating an atmosphere of openness in your intimate life with him is the first step in making him feel less scared about his sexual desire. Im not saying you have to DO everything that he THINKS about, but be willing to ask him to talk about his fantasies. Invite him to give you steamy details. Even the act of sharing can be a tremendous gift of sexual energy between the two of you.
Help him learn to make YOU the star of his sexual mind shows, even if all you do is tell him a dirty story during foreplay.
And finally, dont forget to let him know youre sexually satisfied! If you can do this, hes going to become so riveted by you hell never want to let you go. EVERY man wants to know he can sexually satisfy a woman.
GUY FEAR #2: Other men will think Im weak
You gotta feel for the men of our world. Theyre expected to get a respectable paycheck, make us feel secure, (not think about sex so much), beat out the other guys, support the winning team, be tough, overcome all the obstacles in their way, scare away the bad guys, and never show fatigue, fear, or ANYthing except sheer strength and confidence.
Two Things That Terrify All Men |
Its a lot to live up to.
Its impossible to live up to, actually.
And yet thats the challenge they hear every single day. And if they dont answer it actually DOMINATE it their fear is that they will be publicly shamed, humiliated, despised
Not so much by you or by other women (although they hate the idea of that, too), but by other MEN.
But that doesnt mean YOU dont have power. Every man wants a woman who is unreservedly, whole-heartedly ON HIS SIDE. Your support actually adds to his power in the world of other men.
What YOU can do to help him
I have a question for you: if hes fighting away on the field of his life, do you ever even show up at his game? And if you do, can he hear your enthusiastic, genuine support for him?
Im not saying you have to actually get out your cheerleader skirt and shimmy and shout (although hell probably appreciate that, see #1 above!), but there IS a way to let him know youre seeing how hard he works, and you want him to win.
Encourage him to tell you about his daily battles. Lean in and attentively soak up every bit. Ask for details. Dont multitask while youre doing this; give him your full focus. Be his raving fan.
And offer him your sincere admiration. Let him know how strong you find him, how amazing his accomplishments and abilities are. If you can make him feel like you believe in him and are on his side no matter what, you are going to ADDICT him to you.
3 Steps to Make a Man Love You
If youre sick of Bad Boys, Players and guys who just wont commit, you need to go watch this new video renowned relationship expert Michael Fiore put up. Its called 3 Steps To Make A Man Love You and it teaches you how to make a man not just fall for a you
But to actually make him obsessed with you so HE decides he WANTS to be serious
> Make him powerfully addicted (in a really good way) to you!
Michael lays out the absolute truth about what men really want and need from a woman for them to be able to give EVERYTHING to her
(In fact, he flat out tells you how his girlfriend Captured His Heart and made him fall for her HARD even though he was playing the field and thought hed never settle down.)
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