The first thing youll need to do is try to get him to talk to you. If theres an obvious reason for his depression, it may help to talk through the cause with you. You might be able to even help him get to the bottom of whats causing him to feel depressed, which can lead to a recovery. However, if hes not interested in talking to you, dont push the issue. Instead, it will be up to you to try to find someone that he WILL talk to. Dont feel upset or hurt that hes shut you out. There will always be times when hell need more than you in his life.
Lots of times, helping someone else will have you absorbing lots of negativity, and that includes handling your boyfriends depression. You must not forget to take care of yourself as well. Listen, talk and whatever else he may need, but dont let yourself be sucked into the abyss along with him. Go out with your friends and have some fun whether he goes with you or not. Conduct your life as normally as possible and stay upbeat even though your boyfriend may still be as low as youve ever seen him.
There are a few danger signs that will tell you when your boyfriends depression has crossed from unhappiness to reason for alarm. These include:
Not eating enough
Sleeping too much
Lack of interest in hygiene or bathing
Staying isolated from everyone
Talking about suicide
If your boyfriend is showing any of these symptoms, its time for you to contact a doctor. On the chance that you see all of these symptoms, particularly talking about suicide, you need to get immediate professional help. If this means calling an ambulance, thats what you need to do. You may want to try contacting any family members that are aware of the situation and wont mind physically hauling him to the hospital. While he may be upset with you for taking action at the moment, once hes started recovering, hell understand why you did what you did.
Its difficult to deal with the depression of another person, but its particularly hard when its someone you love. Most of the time, people can recover from their bouts of depression with the right type of help. However, you should also know that there are a significant number of people that dont pull out of their despair for whatever reason. If that turns out to be your boyfriend, it may be that youll need to move on from this relationship in order to save yourself. It may sound harsh and uncaring, but when someone refuses to be helped, you cant allow your life to end and be dragged down with him.
If you are in pain and confused?
Heres some good news
Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason
infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse
even the worst situations you can imagine
like men serving prison sentences have salvaged their relationships. Yes, even Ex-cons have got back together with girlfriends and wives after being away for years!
There is hope
Now I can almost see you shaking your head in disbelief
And its okay
let me ask?
Dont you know couples that have gotten back together? A girl that has taken a guy back?
or vice versa?
I bet you do
and heres the strange real clincher
Do you remember why they broke up in the first place? I bet you know at least one guy or gal that took their lover back after an affair
or unfaithfulness
or worse even?
Think about it for a sec
Sure! And I bet you know of
or have heard of at least one girl that has taken a guy back that REALLY should not have
you know the ones I am talking about
(and I know this is kind of dark)
the girls or guys that are in verbally or physically abusive relationships.
Now, that is some really dark stuff and I am not recommending to anyone to take someone back if the relationship was abusive
I am using it as a point that almost NO SITUATION is unsalvageable
Couples reunite every day REGARDLESS of the situation!
Seriously, Doesnt that make sense? That if most of us can think of couples that have gotten back together
under even some horrible circumstances
that there could be somehidden recipe, or secret even, to reigniting passion and recapturing lost love?
Now
I am not saying they were holding some secret love spell book and doing weird chants
not at all
at the same time somehow, by MOSTLY accident they said and did the RIGHT THINGS at the RIGHT TIME
and won back the heart of their lover
or at least created the circumstances where their ex gave them a second chance.
Allow me to repeat
they did this by mostly ACCIDENT!
Imagine
What if? What they said
and what they did
could be bottled so to speak? And then you could unbottle it and put it to use? To erase old hurts
to reignite passion again
to turn back to a time when your relationship was fresh, new and exciting.
Yes A Magic Love Recipe in a sense
You see there IS a recipe for love as well as a recipe for winning back and keeping some ones interest, desire, passion, heart and love
What they did by accident can be repeated over and over on PURPOSE!
And you know what?
If I were you
I would be somewhat skeptical right now
thats totally fine! I am going to show you some concrete proof. Just bear with me okay?
Do you have these symptoms?
-Leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry
-Loss of appetite
-Binge eating for comfort
-Calling your ex several times a day
-Text messaging and emailing constantly (Text Message Terrorism)
-Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he/she called
-Not going out because you are afraid to miss a call
-Thinking non-stop about why they REALLY left you
-Feeling massively depressed
-Feeling urges to spy on them
-Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said
-Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them
and when you do get a hold of them, it usually turns ugly because without a clear plan of what you are supposed to do
what happens? P-A-N-I-C
defensiveness
arguments
and then it gets really nasty.
Do you make these mistakes with your ex?
-We try to convince them we are the love of their life
-We will apologize profusely for everything
-Promise to change for good this time
-Try to get them to see that it wasnt really our fault
-Even beg with them to take us back
and of course with every word we utter, regardless of our intention, the more and more defensive, angry and distant they become.
Please know
this is not your fault! You werent taught this in school. You probably werent taught this by your parents
and there is no get your ex back night school
Yeah?
And it is really a shame too because what could be more important than love?..Cars?
Money?
Clothes?
ALGEBRA?
So why? Are there all kinds of books, magazines and help on fixing a car,managing money and all the latest fashions, yet very little USEFUL information on how to fix a broken relationship
manage your emotions or getting the love of your life back?
Crazy huh?
And now as you will soon see
all that has changed.
T Dub Discovers His Love Recipe
Please allow me to introduce myself
My name is T.W. Jackson, I know kinda weird
its a long story
you can just call me T Dub
I want to say right off the bat, that I am not a psychologist, Doctor or some relationship guru
In fact I royally piss off the academic types and Ill tell you why in a second
I have been a military brat
or in the military for a majority of my life. In fact I joined the US Navy when I was a ripe old 17 years of age. Because of my life long military experience Ive had dozens of homes
in 11countries
and lived long term in 5 states in the U.S.
And because I have lived in so many places and changed schools so often as a kid
I had to learn
and learn REALLY FAST
how to get along with people. And people from ALL WALKS OF LIFE. I can sit down and have some sake with my friend in Tokyo
or pop open a can of suds and fish Lake Dardanelle with an Arkansas redneck buddy of mine
makes no difference
More importantly
I became really good at reading people, understanding what makes them tick and even got to a point where I could influence their behavior and actions.
In fact, I got quite good at doing this, so good in fact that I was the go to guy whenever my friends had just about any kind of people problem
I kind of felt like the male version of Dear Abby
Maybe you even know someone a little like me?
someone that you go to when you have people problems
Anyway
I got a ton of practice keeping relationships together
and putting them back together after they had come apart
because the divorce rate for military couples is MUCH HIGHER than average.
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